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Speak it!

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Words are very powerful and of course you know this since you are reading this blog and probably many others.  What we say and think can and will have a profound effect on what we receive into our lives and how we react in challenging circumstances.  As we know life isn’t easy and we can surround ourselves with “the row” (a group of positive, transparent and honest friends), but it is how we interact with ourselves that will directly correlate to our existence on this earth.  

Since everything starts with a thought, an idea, we have to first train our brains to think positively. We need to train the brain to think about what is going good instead of everything that is going bad. I have friend that used to remind me when I would fall into the abyss of self doubt, pity, etc to write out a gratitude list. The process, although it may seem simple, can be a struggle when you in the thick of things.  But the task itself works, even if temporary, it works.  It takes away hours of negative thinking and emotions, sometimes days and/or weeks. But let’s go a little further and speak it.

Say your gratitude list aloud.  Really read the words that you placed on paper. Go further and create affirmations to go around your room, bathroom, closet, mirrors, car dashboard, etc. Read them aloud in the morning, midday, and evening. Train your brain to think positive and watch things shift in your environment. See, it’s contagious–positivity. People love it, they can’t get enough. Soon you will notice people drifting towards you but remember to not drain the well. Replenish yourself.  

Today someone told me that there was something different about me and I told them that I was trying to be more positive.  Because positivity for me is life. Without it, I’m consumed with problems of my world and THE WORLD. I get sick, lethargic, irritable. Although my colleague couldn’t quite place the difference in her own words initially, she later emailed me “It’s your aura”. Wow! Mind blown. This energy again, may be a lifeline that you need or those around you may need like your spouse, children, siblings, parents, and colleagues.

So,speak your dreams into existence, speak your love into existence, speak your triumphs into existence, speak your peace into existence. Through positive self talk you can impact more than just yourself, you can be the difference  for someone else.

Long Overdue

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Long Overdue

It has been a while since my last post and I wanted to update you in regard to the life binder and speak with you about all the other things that have transpired in the interim.  Creating the vision board and the life binder has kept me focused every day for the past five months.  The life binder is a conscious effort to pay attention to the things that matter most to me.  Because of it, I have paid off two of my debts, completed another children’s book, and started an e-book.  I have also stayed on target with my grad classes and only have three more to go.  The vision board is a constant reminder to stay focused on the things that I want out of life this year and ultimately for my future. So, all in all I would say that the life binder has been a blessing. For the next few months, I want to focus on sending my completed works to publishers, complete my first e-book, and revamp my blog and unify the theme.  Also, I have read a lot of books in the past five months and want to share my reviews on these books.

Well, this was a short post and just an update on the life binder and current projects.  I am trying to stay motivated and dodge writer’s block but, will be back soon to share what I have learned so far in 2016.

Breakthrough Moment

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I wanted to write this post last month before school went into winter break but, things got so hectic and I fell way behind schedule.  Last month, my daughter and I had a breakthrough moment when I was trying to figure out why she had been behaving differently besides the countless recent changes (baby brother, new county, new school, puberty).  Every time I asked her why her behavior had changed so drastically and not for the positive, she would go into shut down mode. Then an epiphany hit me; I would use my teacher/mentor skills.  Since we were in my classroom and it was the end of the day, I had her close the door and retrieve a dry erase marker. I told her to write on the board all of the things that I expect from her that are unreasonable ( her main complaint was that I didn’t care and I was unfair).  At first she hesitated but, then she started writing.  I didn’t say anything during this process even if I disagreed with some of the things that she wrote down.  I let her voice (scribe) her opinion and when she was done, she stopped, closed the cap on the marker,2013-12-16 15.43.02 and faced me.  I then let her know that we were going to discuss each one and explain ourselves.  This process ended up with her crossing some off the list because she realized that they may not have been accurate depictions of the situation.  The one’s that were left on the board, I promised to work on to keep our bond strong and the lines of communication open.  At the tail end of the conversation, the breakthrough came which led to tears and a big hug from my tween who had been stand-offish prior to for some months.  The overarching theme is that she felt that I thought her opinions and feelings didn’t matter.  She thought I felt that she was unimportant and the only thing that mattered was what I wanted and how I felt.  I realized that my actions probably led her to believe this.  The part that hurt me the most, is that is exactly what I felt about my mother and still do to this day.  It devalues you as an individual.  How can I support a strong sense of self-esteem in my young lady if I am devaluing her, whether it be purposefully or not?  I let her know that it was never my intention to make her feel that way and I have been working on myself so that does not come across as often until I can stop it altogether.  This exercise helped both of us see the reality and brought us closer together.  The pure act of taking the time to hear her out, was in fact healing.  My behaviors towards my daughter are part my own and part learned from my own mother.  But, when we become parents and especially if you are a single parent with no other parent for your child to turn to, it is imperative to extend the olive branch, open the lines of communication, express humility, and start mending what may be broken.  I am not saying that I have this parenting thing down pat, but I am on a constant road to healing and learning, and growing.  Hears to your breakthrough moment!

I Need Some Motivation…to workout

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Notice how the words in the first part of the title begin with uppercase letters until the end?  That is how I feel about jogging which I have been contemplating for the past 6 months (it’s really been a year but that sounds pitiful).  There is something that keeps telling me to go out there and do it but for some reason I can come up with every excuse in the world.  Here are some of the runners-up:

1.  I will look like a fool

2.  I will have an asthma attack ( haven’t had one since kindergarten)

3.  I am deathly afraid of wildlife (I am originally from NYC so all animals are considered wildlife) especially deer, raccoons, foxes, snakes, possums, etc

4.  I do not have the right gear nor can I afford it at the present time

And the grand prize winner of all my excuses:

It’s bad on the knees (this is the only one that is supported by some scientific research…i think)

Anyway at some point, and it has to be soon because I have been eating a lot better and trying to make my health my priority, I will have to try it.  And by try, I mean actually commit to a running routine for at least a few months (hopefully it will turn into a lifestyle change).  I have seen the benefits in some of my close friends and co-workers.  They dropped a lot of weight and handle stress a lot better.  They also are eating healthy and feel sick when they can’t run/jog (at first I rolled my eyes when they said this).

So, I will let you know how this pans out and when I actually start.  I’ve decided to try the couch-to-5K program and continue to eat healthy.  My goal is to be healthy, lose weight, stress less, and live long.

Below is a picture of how I think I will look and then one of how I would like to look:

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Link

http://www.inquisitr.com/701805/jennie-garth-embraces-being-a-single-mom/

Read what celebrity single mom Jennie Garth has to say about embracing single parenting.