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Speak it!

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Words are very powerful and of course you know this since you are reading this blog and probably many others.  What we say and think can and will have a profound effect on what we receive into our lives and how we react in challenging circumstances.  As we know life isn’t easy and we can surround ourselves with “the row” (a group of positive, transparent and honest friends), but it is how we interact with ourselves that will directly correlate to our existence on this earth.  

Since everything starts with a thought, an idea, we have to first train our brains to think positively. We need to train the brain to think about what is going good instead of everything that is going bad. I have friend that used to remind me when I would fall into the abyss of self doubt, pity, etc to write out a gratitude list. The process, although it may seem simple, can be a struggle when you in the thick of things.  But the task itself works, even if temporary, it works.  It takes away hours of negative thinking and emotions, sometimes days and/or weeks. But let’s go a little further and speak it.

Say your gratitude list aloud.  Really read the words that you placed on paper. Go further and create affirmations to go around your room, bathroom, closet, mirrors, car dashboard, etc. Read them aloud in the morning, midday, and evening. Train your brain to think positive and watch things shift in your environment. See, it’s contagious–positivity. People love it, they can’t get enough. Soon you will notice people drifting towards you but remember to not drain the well. Replenish yourself.  

Today someone told me that there was something different about me and I told them that I was trying to be more positive.  Because positivity for me is life. Without it, I’m consumed with problems of my world and THE WORLD. I get sick, lethargic, irritable. Although my colleague couldn’t quite place the difference in her own words initially, she later emailed me “It’s your aura”. Wow! Mind blown. This energy again, may be a lifeline that you need or those around you may need like your spouse, children, siblings, parents, and colleagues.

So,speak your dreams into existence, speak your love into existence, speak your triumphs into existence, speak your peace into existence. Through positive self talk you can impact more than just yourself, you can be the difference  for someone else.

How to Deal with Negative People

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cropped-fifty-shades-black-stock-2.jpgSometimes you have to accept that those closest to you will not value you or see your worth. They will only see what it is that they have envisioned for you and how you are not living up to it. They will only see the negative and any positive will not be recognized. This may be a result of many different factors but none of them matter. It is not necessary to find out why they treat you the way that they do, if their treatment is not impeding your progress but just upsetting you emotionally then let go. These people may be your colleagues, supervisors, friends, or even family. In most situations it is someone that you cannot easily rid yourself of but that’s okay. It’s okay because you have a few options to remedy the situation.

Option #1: You can return their rude remarks with kindness and pray for them.

Option #2: You can let them know in a direct way that their words are mean, rude, and unwelcome.

Option #3: You live one life, cut them off.

Now, the last option is hard to do for most of us, which is why we are presently in these situations.   If the person is your boss and you need your job, then you are operating about of a place of fear. If the person is part of your family, especially immediate family, you are operating out of loyalty and attachments. This is the same with friends. You may feel that you need these connections so you stay tied to them and miserable. When that misery starts affecting your mood, making you doubt yourself, and hindering you because you are feeding into their perception of you then it is time to stop operating out fear, loyalty, and attachments and cut cords. This doesn’t have to happen in a malicious way but once you have done this, you may be able to access your true feelings more clearly. You may either see that you now feel relieved and more self-assured or maybe they weren’t the problem to begin with and you have to work on yourself.

Either way, make a plan and get to living your best life since you only have one opportunity to do so.

Re-Visioning

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stop-procrastinating-and-do-revisionIt has been a while since I have posted to this blog and it is because sometimes life gets in the way.  Mine became all-consuming and I started to drift off into a place where I felt detached from myself.  I was just a robot doing what needed to be done and existing but not living.  The more time away from writing, the more I became detached.  Words are my life!  My goal is to get it back and focus on what matters “MOST”,  hence, the title Re-Visioning.

I have my students revise their drafts because sometimes it lacks focus, purpose, or careless mistakes have been made.  Some drafts are beautifully written but can be taken to the next level.  That is how I explain it when they ask why they have to revise.

Life can be revised.  Sometimes we get into a pattern where we lose focus, purpose and make careless mistakes.  Sometimes we are at the top of our game but just need to switch gears and try something new.

I am at that point.  I am re-visioning my life and doing what works for me and mine (my household).  My goal of getting published this year did not occur because I drifted and got caught up in existing.  Do not let this happen to you and if it does, know that you can switch gears. A new year is coming but more importantly a new day.  It doesn’t matter how far down the wrong path you have traveled, as long as you stop and turn around.  We can constantly recreate the life that we want for ourselves.  We can constantly revise our plans when thrown a curve ball.  We can re-vision our purpose.  It is never too late.  What I will not do is look back another 10 years from now and ask “Why didn’t I even try?”

Life in Perspective (Part of a Series)

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I have been “snowed-in” for the past few days and have completed a lot of homework for my new graduate degree that I’m working on.  I have also pinned a lot on Pinterest.  In keeping this post short, I was able to sit down with my daughter and go through these pictures and ask her thoughts on what she saw.  This was a very enlightening moment as she realized that the world was actually as big as she was being told.  Kids are so visual and no matter how many reports they have to write on globalization and multiculturalism, it always hits home when they get to “see” it.  The best is when they can experience.  I wanted to share with you what I shared with her from a site called distractify.com.

Information and link courtesy of distractify.com

Passion and Purpose

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PurposeToday I just want to vent a little.  For the past several years I have been trying to do big things and open doors for myself to new opportunities.  I have gone to trainings, received degrees, taken on more responsibility, let others know what I want and everything else positive that would set me up for success.  The issue is that every door that has been closed has stayed closed.  I have received so many rejection emails (none in regards to my writing) that it would make the average person give up.  But, now it is year six and still no bite.  I am getting antsy because bills are piling up, I have children to take care of, and the income is not meeting the demand.  I am working multiple jobs where I am so tired that I just cannot bring myself to write.

Well, no longer!  What I have been doing is following an agenda that is not aligned with my passion and purpose.  As a single parent, I am thinking about affording college, daycare, rent, utilities, groceries, car, etc.  The epiphany has come to me many times before but has rung more clear today than it ever has.  Follow my passion.  Follow my purpose.  And at least if I still continue to struggle, I will be a lot happier knowing that I tried and did something I loved.

I am by no means a quitter.  But, I am wearing myself thin.  I rarely have time with my children trying to make enough to support them and I am still coming up short.  I am writer and motivator.  I want to help other single parents and write for a living.  I want to help society as a whole by those means.  Whether or not it becomes lucrative is of no concern to me.  I want to live with no regrets.

I regret the amount of time that I have already lost away from my children.  I regret running myself into the ground and not focusing on my health and multiple sclerosis trying to take on extra assignments that aren’t recognized nor appreciated.  It is time to live for me and my family.

I hear a lot of my friends questioning their purpose and current situations.  I hear a lot of regret.  I guess the question we end up asking ourselves or should ask ourselves is “what legacy do I want to leave behind?”

Then, go for it!

Finding Our Way

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I guess I’m at the age  where myself and my peers are wondering what our purpose is on this earth.  We are leaving long-term relationships, re-assessing finances and the way in which we spend money, switching careers, more conscious of our health and planning for the future of our children.  Some of this may sound like it’s out-of-order but, it seems to be the same spot that everyone I know is in and we are all in the same age range mid 30’s- 40 years old.  Speaking for myself I am even more focused on owning my own home and planning for the future. I keep contemplating leaving the classroom and just going for my dreams of being both a novelist and songwriter.  It’s scary and I often consider going into real estate because it will allow me some flexibility but the market is so volatile.

Again, scary territory.  What about getting up and moving back to my hometown of NY?  That’s even an option on the table.  I know that there is a huge change coming for me because I can feel it but in the meantime I find myself struggling with feelings of anxiety.  What am I anxious over?  Mostly, things that are not within my control. And speaking with my peers, I am not alone.

Power of WordsSo, I never harp on a problem for too long.  I usually go into solution mode and the solution I recently came up with was journaling more consistently (handwritten). It makes me feel good to get out my true feelings and just release.  I usually look back over these entries when I am in a different state of mind and learn even more about myself. If you are feeling overwhelmed by life and your path, please consider journaling and those of you who do not like writing or typing can use voice memos on your cell phone or laptops.  Let some of it go.  It becomes too much to hold on to and creates a daunting outlook.

We are all here to do great things and in order to do those things we must keep ourselves mentally, physically, and emotionally renewed.