Today I was listening to one of my favorite radio stations when I heard the term “Get it Done”. I usually use a more inappropriate variation of the same term but it all means the same thing. So many times I make lists of things that I want to accomplish and months later, I can check some things off but not enough. I want to accomplish all of my dreams, especially my big one’s but I seem to lose stamina because they are so big. I know some will say that motivation is the issue but, I am not sure if it’s motivation or persistence. I have bought so many calendars and journals to write down my plans but they were never specific enough. I just ended up wasting money on another journal full of dreams. What I realize as I get older and as I monitor myself for online graduate studies is that if I break things down into smaller tasks that are day by day or week by week, I accomplish more and I accomplish more on time! The feeling of completing something small in relation to a bigger dream feels really good. So, of course I have come up with a way to organize my small feats that tackle my bigger than life dreams.
I can use one of the many calendars or notebooks that I have already purchased and map out a week at a time. If you are like me, you have many goals that you want to accomplish which is why it is important to color code them. I love, love, love my Staedtler pens. They help me clearly see that I am accomplishing multiple tasks a day in regards to each of my goals. Use a different color for each dream/goal. Darken your lines when you are nearing the completion of goals. If it is a huge project, you may want to do weekly or monthly checklists. If it is not that sizable, you may benefit from a daily checklist. Check them off when you complete them and or revise and shift things around as necessary. Each day we should all be doing something that emphasizes our talents and pushes us closer to our goals. Otherwise, we will go crazy or get depressed because we have surrendered to a dream deferred. Look for more posts on this topic to come.
P.S.= Do whatever works for you, but just make sure to get it done!
Yesterday morning I woke up with what seemed like the weight of the world on my chest. I couldn’t breathe because I felt utterly lonely and scared. This could have been brought on by the nightmare I had that night but needless to say it rocked my world for some hours. I had to calm myself down and realize that it is impossible to be lonely when you have two children. I started to think about how I might grow old without a companion. That’s what it was that was plaguing me! I was alone,without a companion. It took me some time to work through these feelings as anxiety set in and then very slowly receded. I started thinking about my readers who at some point have or will feel the same way. What advice can I offer and remember I am not board certified. Here is what I came up with:
1. This feeling is temporary even if it may come and go in spurts.
2. Do not let a dream/nightmare/false reality keep you in a place of continuous despair.
3. Find “fullness” in yourself.
4. Make yourself happy.
5. Remember that when you leave this earth, you want your kids to know that you were the best parent that you could be and not that you were always depressed because they weren’t enough and you didn’t plan your life this way.
6. Plans are laughable because life is just a bunch of random circumstances (don’t agree, respond to this post)
7. Do what you love and continue to do it until it wrings every drop of loneliness out of you.
8. Know that this too shall pass and we never know what the future holds.
9. Don’t give up on yourself because your kids haven’t given up on you.
10. Be there for you!!!
I feel a lot better now because I decided that this feeling will not get the best of me. I will parent and write and create and parent and write and create because that is what cures my anxiety. What does it for you? How do you tackle these moments?
Today is the first day of #TeachersWrite which is a cohort of lovers of words that are getting together to nudge each other along on their writing journey’s. I was so excited for this day because I have been looking for a community of like-minded individuals (check out Kate Messner and Jo Knowles). I have been sitting on a couple of stories for a while now ( I will not even go into how awhile is). But, there is one that has been nudging me the hardest. It is always there in the back of my mind whispering to me phrases the main character (MC) would say. It pops up in social situations very randomly and I have to fidget around to get out one of my many notebooks to write something down that will be important to the story. The only problem is that I have let life get in the way and I have not sat down to keep writing past the first two chapters. Bits and pieces of other chapters are written but they are not fleshed out. The reader will not understand the true depth of the relationships between the characters. So, this summer along with obtaining photography for my poetry book, I will sit down and continue to write (if not complete) this YA work of fiction. Wish me luck!