It has been a while since my last post and I wanted to update you in regard to the life binder and speak with you about all the other things that have transpired in the interim. Creating the vision board and the life binder has kept me focused every day for the past five months. The life binder is a conscious effort to pay attention to the things that matter most to me. Because of it, I have paid off two of my debts, completed another children’s book, and started an e-book. I have also stayed on target with my grad classes and only have three more to go. The vision board is a constant reminder to stay focused on the things that I want out of life this year and ultimately for my future. So, all in all I would say that the life binder has been a blessing. For the next few months, I want to focus on sending my completed works to publishers, complete my first e-book, and revamp my blog and unify the theme. Also, I have read a lot of books in the past five months and want to share my reviews on these books.
Well, this was a short post and just an update on the life binder and current projects. I am trying to stay motivated and dodge writer’s block but, will be back soon to share what I have learned so far in 2016.
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I am not sure what your story is but I know that mine has to be similar to someone out there in the world. I met my children’s father when I was in high school and from that moment forward I saw something in him that he didn’t see in himself. I also noticed that over the years he became less pity-party and more manipulative, always using his good looks and words to get what he wanted. Long story short, it took me until recently to finally let go of the dream and move on. I am still in the process of truly giving up resentment and appreciating the hard lessons learned.
Through it all, I have seen that doors only opened when my focus was not on him and I did not let him back into mine and our children’s lives. New possibilities and happiness, and peace of mind cannot reside within if we keep holding onto the past. Although this is easier said than done for most people (including myself because I am a work in progress), it is a reality that we all must face.
The title of this blog came about when I first realized that I would be and had been a single mom for a while. The in and out and back and forth was not good for the children (or myself) but I was the only constant that they had. I am blessed to have family and friends that have always been there for us but, when you want to realize your dreams (writing, creating, owning your own business) you must make choices that place you in a state where you can move forward and open yourself up to the endless possibilities that exist for you. Those great things do not come when you are chasing after the wrong dream or stuck in a fog over someone or something that doesn’t deserve the attention that you are giving it.
I look back on the many opportunities that I missed out on because I was focused on the wrong thing. I can remember moments when I could have unwrapped the package that would have turned the tables in a positive direction for me but, I didn’t. Staying in destructive situations does something to your self-esteem, pride, emotions. These feelings can be transferred to your children. It doesn’t have to be a relationship that sets it off; it could be a failed job or project, dropping out of school. But, whatever it is, is what it ‘WAS’ and you must move on.
The life you want awaits you and you are never too old or too far behind to start all over again and make it better for yourself. I believe in you and I believe in me. So, let go of the past!